They are coming...

Spent the whole afternoon with OBIL, his GF and hubby in SITEX and also in JB, Malaysia.

When in SITEX, din have much chance to talk coz I reached 2 hours after they have reached. Needless to say, they have already more or less finished walking around. So the moment I reached, hubby whisked me off to the Starhub booth and we stood there for a solid 2 hours just to queue for the internet connection.

Then we rushed all the way to JB... coz I found out that GF's bro will be fetching her at about 7pm after his work to go back to their hometown for the weekend, which is like 3 hours drive from JB according to GF.

Chatted for awhile and I realized, some of the things that I have previously said about OBIL is still true but I've left my feelings over-ride my whole self. I've also because of the ex GF decided to dislike the current GF.

I took the chance to invite her to our plc for the Christmas gathering and she has agreed but she made me confuse with "going to your parents' house?" I was really confused with "your parents" does she mean PIL? My Parents? Gave her a very confused look and then finally clarify that it's OUR home then she got it and she say yes, will come. *Phew*

Not sure, what was (or were?) the factor(s) that made me change. I definitely believe that prayers and with the grace of God, I've manage to overcome this hurdle. But I think it's also coz of what 3rd aunt told hubby 2 days ago, as hubby met 3rd uncle while he was on his way home after the heb B jab. Then went to their child's hse to look see.

3rd aunt mentioned that FIL is not really happy with this current GF but did not explain why. But in my opinion, it's coz FIL prefers YL and is prejudice against GF now. Also we manage to find out some family history.

Suddenly, I feel quite sorry for GF now. She has a tough fight in front of her and to be honest, I am not really sure if she can ever win this battle with PILs. No matter what, they will prefer YL, that much I am sure. But then again, over time, over space, they may grow accustomed to GF and grow to like her?

I can only say, for her to overcome this, OBIL needs to know when to draw the line in defying and going against FIL and have to get GF to appear in a better light in FIL's eyes.

Oh! Another thing, 3rd aunt told hubby that FIL is a very traditional and stubborn man. I've yet to encounter these 2 traits of him but I guess, sooner or later, this will surface. Fil also seemed to have mentioned something like "din go home for dinner" I am not sure if he's referring to us (that we did not go home more often for dinner) or BIL or specifically just me. Coz there are days when hubby goes back alone when I go for kick box. Not sure. But if he is referring to me, then *sigh* from next year onwards, there will be even more days/nights when hubby goes back alone while I go and study lor.

How to resolve, I don't know. I've already told them that next year, I am starting and sponsored by company. Hubby will start in the next sem. So how? Will have even lesser chance to go back in this case lor.

Then FIL make more remarks?? How?!?!?!