Relaxing Day

After so long, Hubby and I finally decided to utlise the free Shaw Theater Tickets that I have. We decided to go to Bugis for "Narnia".

But before that, he had to go to Plaza Sing to get his hp serviced, something's wrong with his hp. Either he can't hear or the other party can't hear, but most times it's he can't hear others.

Anyway, we got his hp done and then went off in search of food and then took the train down to Bugis for the show. I got the tickets the day before when I made plans with my girlies for dinner, so on that count, we don't have to go to queue for the tickets way in advance.

Our plan was to go for mass after the movie ends. Gosh... who knows the movie was so long and by the time, we were done, it was 5 mins to 6.30pm! Too late to go for mass anywhere. Hence, we changed our minds and just loitered in Bugis and walked around.

Honestly, I did not do any shopping at all, shopping in the sense of clothes, shoes, bags and cosmetics. I do think that I have no lack of it, though of course, I will never say "No" to more. But anyway, nothing caught my eyes. Hence nothing.

However, knowing me, I did come home with somethings. =) A box of Chewy Junior's Cream Puff, flyer has many many different flavors.

With FULL instructions on how to best enjoy the puffs. Needless to say, I got ALL the chocolates that was available, a coffee and peanut butter.... the later 2 are Hubby's personal all time favorite favors of anything, just as Chocolate is to me.

They are having some kind of promotion, buy 6 and get 1 original favor free. Hence, I walked away with 7 puffs.... which before we even left Bugis, the 7th was in our tummies!

I do like the texture of the puffs.... not really chewy but it definitely requires more bite before swallowing it. I love the light chocolate creams inside the puff and the toppings... well, for the toppings, it's not that special. Just more things to get my mouth dirty with and more fats ending up in the stomach.

If you were to get it, I personally prefer the Almond Chocolate and Blueberry. Get it at Chewy Junior. They have a few branches and more seems to be springing up over sunny Singapore too.

Also, I cannot resist buying the entire collection of "The Chronicles of Narnia" by C S Lewis for myself. There's 2 different designs on the cover of the box set. But I prefer this... the other is a picture of the current movie, "Prince Caspian". This is not the first time I'm buying this collection, I've bought another of this series for my sis's birthday a few years back... but I'd still love to have the entire collection for myself... Pity, this is the soft cover, would love to have the hardcover!!I know. I basically can spend on anything and everything. =P

But books to me are worth it. I'm a book lover! I've already finished almost the first 5 books. Going to start on book 6 in a while. And I'm also going to take time to plastic each one. But the only thing is, once I've plastic it, then it probably cannot fit into the box anymore as the books would have gained thickness....

How ar? Any suggestions? I cannot let my books not be plastic coz the edges will spoil very easily and I feel so sad when my books are like that but once I've plastic them, it cannot fit into the box. =(

I just noticed... I seem to be buying books after every semester of my studies!

I have the Harry Potter complete series and now Narnia complete series too. I love these 2 series and I think I've read Harry Potter so many times, I can almost know the next sentence I'm going to read. Strange is, these 2 books are all of magic... think I'm a child at heart, love fairy tales, Good VS evil kind and also... the presence of God in it....

Maybe not so much in Harry but definitely a resounding YES in Narnia. The first page of the first book already seems to be oozing of God's presence!

our needs..

Sometimes, I'm wondering, how do I tell the difference between my needs and wants?

Hubby is starting to pay attention to this "need" and "wants". According to the book I read, "His needs, her needs."

Men and women has different needs and expect different needs from each other. But basically, there are 10 things which is in common between the both sex just that all the needs ranked differently.

I wonder, just how different are the both of us in ranking our needs?

Good read.

Was browsing thru someone's else blog and came across this. Too late for us to apply, but I guess it can help us to improve our marriage?

A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term success.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no onewants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’regetting married, they’ll say: “We’re in love.” I believe is the #1 mistake people make when they date.

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there’s a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more.

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line- and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get “punished” or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as “someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing.” So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?

Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character
refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc.? How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? Do
they show respect? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they’ll have gratitude for you - who can’t do nearly as much for them!

Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to “improve” them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it, “You can probably expect someone to change after marriage … for the worse!” If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

Source: loveris blog

Another weekend gone.

Hai... sad sad lar.. Another weekend gone and this weekend though long but we din rest enough.

And tomorrow onwards, I'm gonna hv graduation for the whole week. Will be tired out lor. The higest point of excitment for this week will be "the wedding of the year" on this Sat. haha..

But this weekend was quite special too lar, we went shopping, did housework (bleh!) went swimming and of course went for mass. I love weekends like this where we did things lesiurely and don't have to rush to go anywhere or do anything in particular.

I'm recently starting to read this book, "His needs, Her needs" on loan to me by my room mate, Ah Teck. It's really an interesting book. Describing in details why men and women are different. Also how to overcome or rather prevent. In fact, I much much prefer this book to John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." This His and Hers gave practical examples and also the points to lead up to the situation. What I like best is the opening chapter, "How to build an affair proof marriage" I think this is v v impt and relevant in our modern days now. Men (in general) succumb to temtation so easily and there are just tempatations everywhere no matter which way you turn.

I just started chapter 6 and well will spend more time on it if I can. Really interesting!

I hope hubby will read the book too and then we can discuss some of the points that was raised. =) Sometimes, being prayerful and just assuring each other is not enough. Getting to know how your spouse function is also a good way to bond the re-ship and to bring it to higher levels.