Feelings.

Feelings are strange things. It can make you do lots of strange things. And worse, you cannot really control the feelings that you have towards a certain someone unless you try very hard to change it.

I say it coz, I took it for granted that PIL prefer ex gf and thought he has already accepted new gf. But as much as I assumed that he has accepted it, I know deep down he would still have preferred ex. And this came out once again. Or rather I should say, only recently then I realized the extent of how much FIL has not taken to new gf yet.

Though he did not say it to his sons nor any of us, he has mentioned to 3rd aunt (his sister) that he don't like new gf. Actually, from the way I look at it, she's ok. Abit "lian" but I think young girls behave like that. She's pretty quiet too. So she seems ok. Of course, plus the fact that she's not a Singaporean, so FIL may be bias. But I think the actual fact is just that he has not gotten over ex.

This may not concern me so I am not too bothered. What bothers me more is that he made remarks to 3rd aunt like "seldom go back for dinner." Sometimes, I wish FIL will come outright to ask us and we can tell him what's happening so that we do not have that kind time to go back more often. Of course, we have the weekends free. But weekends are precious to us too and we want to spend time just alone lor.

Personally, I think I am being the best DIL I can be to them. I don't keep their son away from them and really, we try to make time to go back at least once a week.

Sometimes, if only people will tell you what they are thinking, what they want or expect you to do, and if you can compromise and then the world will be a much better place to live in isn't it?

This morning, as hubby and me were on our way home after the weekly yoga sessions. He mentioned that he felt that OBIL does not seem very sure of GF as in if she is THE one for him based on his answer to our "When you intend to get married?" which prompted a "then when are you going to have your kid?" Hubby says based on this, he felt that his bro is not certain abt her coz if he is, then he should be replying "xxx years/months later" But I feel differently. I felt that since he already has indicated that he would like to go and see the show flats with her, then it should mean something.

I don't know.

Which once again brings me back to "if only everyone wears their feelings written in the form of words on their sleeves/forehead" the world will definitely be that much easier to live in lor.